TRASACTIONAL VS UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

When we analyze love as a social construct shaped by cultural, historical, and societal contexts we can see the influence it has on the definition, expression, and experience. We’ve been conditioned to view love as transactional, where we provide and receive emotional, physical, and material benefits without any regard to its true meaning. This perspective of love as an economic exchange where resources such as time, affection and support are invested with expectations to be rewarded through intimacy, validation, and happiness costing us emotional labor and sacrifice.

The opposite of transactional love is unconditional love. There are no expectations required with unconditional love because there is no judgment or attachment to specific experiences or outcomes. There’s no quid-pro-quo mentality as the focus is on giving, sharing, and caring with the emphasis on the well-being of all parties, not just the self.

Transactional love is given with expectations of reciprocation with the emphasis on receiving benefits, emotional support, or material gains. Love as an economic exchange is based on performance or achievements with the focus being exchange and fairness. For example, romantic relationships with unspoken expectations or parent-child relationships with conditional approval.

Unconditional love is unwavering, regardless the circumstances. The focus is on acceptance, compassion, and empathy.

Transactional love creates anxiety, stress, and disappointment when expectations aren’t met by creating feelings of resentment and entitlement making it impossible to form deep connections.

Unconditional love brings peace, joy and fulfillment for deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, creating personal growth and self-awareness.

UNCONDITIONAL LOVE / ENCODING THE MIND

All wisdom and knowledge are contained within the heart structure when the intention, motivation, and behavior is centered around showing up in practice of unconditional love. When utilized properly much can be achieved by transforming our perception of unconditional love. We are given the tool of intellect and within it lies the power of discernment OR judgment.

Unconditional LOVE is greater and wiser than judgment. It knows that no matter what we see, we see ourselves, and no matter what we think about others, we in fact think about ourselves.

Judgment is the poison 🍎

It’s considered a PROFOUND act of unconditional love to remain open hearted and minded to new information, people and experiences without judging, expecting or hiding.

We can only become aware of this aspect within ourselves, when we consciously choose with intention to grow in self-awareness.

We’ve been programmed to judge, but judgment is final. It suggests we already possess everything we need to know. Judgment is a fear program within the illusion of separation agenda.

The very act of judging takes us backwards. However, we have the ability to create a mindset shift by aligning our perception with the idea that by focusing attention on seeking clarity and understanding towards new information it contains lessons to be felt, experienced and learned to develop our self-awareness into wisdom.

Leading by example is the most persuasive of teaching tools. Often times words confuse people and cannot reach them. We are all on different wave lengths and levels within this illusion. Each one of us has our own awareness and margin for understanding, combined with the fact that most people think with their emotions.

Emotions appear to be real to an experiencer, yet they are not. Rather, they’re based on feelings that are fleeting and fluctuate due to many aspects and variables, such as an individual’s programming from childhood. As we grow in our seeking, we must always remain open to all that surrounds us and refrain from judging from our particular point of view.